Brian Balfour: commitment

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…Is there an example of hard hitting feedback that you can share? And secondary question, is there a way you set up those relationships where people know they can be really honest with you? Do you just tell them, "Please be brutally honest with me," or you do it in return? I'm going to keep the examples to myself because we do have ... What is it? Chatham house rules or whatever for that trip, which is we just don't talk about what we talk about there. I will say though, if you're going to do something like this, the key is all about setting the tone. So we do have new folks in there and we do set an expectation of here are some of the types of things that we're going to cover and stuff. But that first dinner convo, it's always myself or a few people who have been there before who are the first one to open up the conversation or answer the dinner question that we might have, and they just really set the tone for how open and how deep and how hard hitting we're going to get. And usually you do two or three of those, people follow suit and it opens up everybody else for the rest of the time you have. Whether it's a meeting or an experience like we're talking about. So some folks on that trip have talked about ... They open up with potential divorces or shutting a company down. It's like things that you're definitely not going to get in a hello, nice to meet you type of conversation. It's straight to the point. It's like, "Hey, nice to meet you. Let me tell you about this thing that's going disastrous in my life." And then the other person just tends to reciprocate and that just opens up the whole shebang. It opens people up and everything flows from there. Sounds like an amazing group. Brian, I don't want this podcast to end, but we're on our very final lesson. Let me summarize lesson nine real quick. Find sparring partners, not mentors or coaches. What is lesson number 10?…

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