Susan Cain: belief

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…I just did a short meditation retreat and somebody there had this really interesting way of doing exactly what you're describing, where he visualizes this lightning cable going form his... Instead of unplugging it from his brain and plugging into his heart and listening to that, into what you're saying. Yeah, it's just funny how that works. I think one of the main hacks to understand about how we humans relate to each other is how much we are picking up unconsciously, a thousand different cues that we're sending out without even knowing that we are. And that's why speaking from that place makes such a difference. And so yes, it can be helpful to think about your tone of voice and all that kind of... And your gestures and all of that kind of stuff. But I would start with what's actually there, the substance. And again, this is a good example of why introverts are so valuable, is I feel like it's probably easier to do that, to be kind of talking from your heart and be authentic. This tip you shared of speaking early, I think is really interesting. It connects to, this is going to sound crazy and weird, maybe. There's this whole pickup artist world of just, I forget what the book was called, where they wrote about mystery and this whole like, the art of picking up women. And one of the tricks that they share with... Guy, and I did not do this, this is just an interesting story, is if you're trying to talk to someone in a bar, you should talk to them in the first five seconds of you seeing them and thinking you should talk to them. Because once you keep thinking about it too much, you'll never do it, it gets super scary, and it only gets scarier. And I think that's true in meetings. You just sit there and keep ruminating, "Oh my god, am I going to say something?" And the more you do it early, the easier it all is.…

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