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…ou haven't thought about her since she died. [laughter] I was like, "Oh, that's so true. That's the queen, you know, that's the queen of England after a hundred years, you know, dying." And so I never really cared about the legacy stuff so much, but I wanted to achieve greatness. And when I thought about achieving greatness, it was some version of success or, you know, building something that mattered in the world or, you know, like the the number one of something, being the number one of something. And what I've realized is that achieving greatness was sort of like not not for me. It would be a fool's errand for me. It's not what I'm wired to do. It's not what I would enjoy to do. It's it comes at a cost that I would not be willing to pay once I knew the cost. But there's a big difference between achieving something great and being great. I know a lot of people who are great. Our buddy Ramon is great. He's a great friend. He's a great dad. He's a great guy. And he's a great hang. And you know what I mean? He he he is good at being great. You you'd mentioned Ben Wilson. Ben Wilson right now is being great in handling such a difficult circumstance with absolute, you know, class and courage. And there's just being great. My trainer is a guy. He's just great. He's he's a great guy. He's a great uncle to my kids. He's a great um you know, great trainer. He cares about people, you know, he's so fun to be around. He's he's always in a great mood. He's that's called being great. And so I realized like being great, the active tense, the day-to-day thing, that's the thing to chase because you could do it right now. And in the moment, how you're showing up, you could be great right now. And you could also fall out of being great if you lose track of that. And you should get right back on the horse, try to be great again. And I think that was the where I landed. I was like, "Okay, I think I that resonates for me. Feel I feel comfortable with that." And it's a it's a far more holistic sense. It's you could be great when you're exercising and you're in the last three reps of the set and you have to decide if you're going to put the reps if put the weight down or if you're going to push yourself and try to really like see what you're made of. That's a moment of being great. You know, you could just be courteous and kind to somebody. That's a moment of being great. You know, like sometimes I'm with I'm at the park and there's other kids and they're kind of like, you know, talking to me and I'm kind of just like, I don't know why this four-year-old is talking to me. And sometimes I brush them off and I just want to be on my phone. I don't really want to talk to this stranger kid about like, you know, this caterpillar that he found. And sometimes I indulge them and I'm like, "No, I I, you know, I'll say something to them that's plays back into them because that's how I would want someone to treat my kid." It's a moment where I get to choose if I'm going to be great or if I'm not going to be great. And I'm not always I'm not always the best at that, but increasing that hit rate is the goal. And that's one I can kind of get behind. choose if I'm going to be great or if I'm not going to be great. And I'm not always I'm not always the best at that, but increasing that hit rate is the goal. And that's one I can kind of get behind. >> What's the phrase again? Say this again. I think this is good. Instead of building something great, be great. >> Yeah. Don't try to achieve greatness. Like just be great right now. Like just being great. >> Did you see the guy who go went viral? um this week on Twitter where he was like saying like someone was talking about like hard work and he was like I think you should work hard but but there's a there's this a age between like 3 years old and 13year-old where your kids don't dislike you yet and they're willing to spend time with you know past 13 that doesn't happen and they're out of diapers so they're a little bit easier and they start having opinions and then they can think and for a lot of men who are ambitious people what they notice is that their ambition goes away or dials down during in this period because they love being around their kids. And it doesn't happen to everyone, but a lot of men do. And what I've noticed is that the people who are fearful of this, I just want to let you know that it tends to come back. Ambition does come back. And the reason why this went viral is because I'm experiencing this and I think maybe you are and a lot of our um our folks listening are. But like there is this moment where you start like experiencing these things with your kids when they start having opinions and they still like hanging out with you and you're like I don't know if I care about the same things like ambition or these other things where I dedicated my life to them. I guess I'm not willing to pay that price. And frankly I find it to be kind of a pain in the ass because you're like life was so much simpler. just climb the ladder, make money, you know? It's like f chicks and get money. Like, [laughter] like it's so much simpler that way. And then you have kids and you're like, "Shit, everything I thought to be true, it's not true right now." >> And the the poster was like, "But it becomes true again later on." Like you, it does come back. But I remember reading that last weekend and it really hits hit with me because when you're talking about these like guys who are hardcore, I'm like, I don't want I'm not staying till midnight right now. >> Yeah. No, [laughter] my chair has lumbar support. >> I don't think I'm going to be here till midnight. [laughter] >> That that ain't happening. >> No option drops for us. [laughter] >> Yeah, >> dude. I gave him a great idea at the breakfast and he option dropped me. I was like, "Yes." [laughter] Immediately like hook, line, and sinker. I was like, "Wow, how do I get that again?" That was a really [laughter] I like that reward. Um, I was going to bring up another story, but I'm not going to anymore. I think that was perfect. [laughter] >> Yeah, that'd be a little too hardcore for us, too. But we're going to chill out at 55 minutes and not go to the 60. [laughter] >> No, I think this has a good bow tie to it. Or bow tie a good, you know, [clears throat] whatever that phrase is about oo. But we're going to chill out at 55 minutes and not go to the 60. [laughter] >> No, I think this has a good bow tie to it. Or bow tie a good, you know, [clears throat] whatever that phrase is about presents and [laughter] uh rapid It's all done. I don't know. All right, that's it. That's a pod.…

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