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15 Jan 2026 Lenny's Podcast How to show up in any room with a low heart rate: Silicon Valley’s missing etiquette playbook | Sam Lessin
“The reason is, but it's at least enough plausible deniability of semi-bad etiquette that leverages the social situation to be a better etiquette, that it's a useful thing to think about as a small queue.”
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- Sam Lessin
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- 15 Jan 2026
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…I love that. It's a great example of the fact that if you're really in tune socially, you kind of know what's going on. You know what I mean? You're not an idiot. You know, "Oh, what is proper? What this person is doing?" There's a gap between it. There's a reason. The reason is, but it's at least enough plausible deniability of semi-bad etiquette that leverages the social situation to be a better etiquette, that it's a useful thing to think about as a small queue. I'm so bad at remembering names. I think I have a medical issue, so I just can't remember names. So this tip alone is so good. And just to reinforce it, so there's almost two ways to do this is what you're describing. Either it's like my wife's name's Michelle, so it's like, "Hey, Michelle. I meet my wife, Michelle." And then they're like, "Oh, I'm Bob. Nice to meet you, Michelle." Or make it a little more awkward of just, "Michelle, meet and then let it hang." Is that the thing?…
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